I’m kind of in a tough situation….
A couple months ago, I posted about my hatred for people who whore themselves out on friendster/facebook. My response to these types of requests are pretty straightforward….If I don’t know you, and you haven’t given me a valid reason for requesting my friendship, then I’m rejecting you. (”I’m a big fan of your website” works, “We have the same last name” doesn’t.)
Since then, I’ve encountered a new situation that I wasn’t expecting, and one that I don’t have as straightforward of a solution for.
Shortly after my previous post, I got a request on facebook from a name I didn’t recognize. I did my initial background check of her profile and saw that she graduated from my high school in ‘01 (I was ‘00). Nothing else seemed to ring a bell…. I had never even heard of the college she went to in Florida. l couldn’t place her, so I asked my sister (who was also ‘01) if she knew anything about her. She gave me a general description, but it did nothing to jog my memory. And although her facebook picture indicated her to be a pretty attractive young lass, I stuck to my standards and sent a little “No” her way.
Last week, I got another request from this SAME person. What is the protocol for this type of situation?
Is she stalking me? Has my internet stardome extended to the furthest reaches of little-known Florida colleges? Will I soon be crashing my Infiniti while evading the paparazzi? Do I admire her persistance with a ‘yes’, or do I need to restrict my phone number?
Am I the idiot? We have 36 friends in common…..all Mel-Hi alumni, from close friends to kids-I-hardly-spoke-to-but-whose-names-I-at-least-remember. Did she slip through the cracks somewhere in the five years since I’ve moved away? Should I give in, on account of my terrible memory?
Or is she just plain dumb? Did she NOT catch my previous rejection? Or has she whored herself out so much that she can’t remember who has rejected her in the past? Has the word “friend” lost all meaning to her? If I reject her again, how will I know its over?
What do I do?
Email: me [at] amishshah [dot] com
14 responses so far ↓
a.chat. // Oct 10, 2005 at 3:52 pm
Say “no” again! Attractive girls find rejection to be a motivator. Once she conquers you, she will leave you in the dust.
Amy // Oct 10, 2005 at 9:40 pm
Who is it!? Do I know her?
manan // Oct 11, 2005 at 10:40 am
she wants you…
does her profile not have pictures of her?
what college did she go to?
David // Oct 11, 2005 at 11:41 am
Say yes, friendster is really just a way to find relative strangers in cities where you would just walk around aimlessly, seeing sites and eating pie. -d!
No skin off yr back, I say.
Amish // Oct 11, 2005 at 12:00 pm
Amy - you might know her, but I’m not going to say her name here. Email me for it.
Manan - Facebook only has one picture per person. I can’t tell who she is from that one picture. She went to FGCU (Florida Gulf Coast University?)
David - But she doesn’t live in THIS city. Also, she didn’t send me any type of message or attempt at communication. Just a repeat request. What about my standards? Do I just throw them to the wind?
I am leaning towards agreeing with a.chat.
manan // Oct 11, 2005 at 5:14 pm
florida gulf coast university? wtf is that?
im guessing its on the west coast of florida somewhere, lol… just a guess tho
Jusmin // Oct 11, 2005 at 6:01 pm
Say no, stick to your principles
Rajan // Oct 11, 2005 at 8:07 pm
you talk to your 36 common friends and find out her email address, and send her a 2 liner.
“Hey Amy, what’s shaking? I’m thinking I might be in town soon, want to catch up?”
You’re not lying, you’re just thinking. Do it.
manan // Oct 12, 2005 at 10:02 am
you will be in town, in a month, right?
Amish // Oct 12, 2005 at 10:03 am
Manan- Yeah I will be. I’m in the process of looking for plane tickets right now.
Jen // Oct 18, 2005 at 9:38 am
I know who you’re talking about…i got it too!
Amish // Oct 18, 2005 at 9:42 am
That’s wonderful advice Jen. Thanks.
Jen // Oct 19, 2005 at 9:01 am
Just add her and get on with it…principles get you no where in life
Amish In The City // Jan 17, 2006 at 6:43 pm
I Give Up
After two rejections, I got another Facebook request from this girl. She wins….
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